Introducing toys in the bedroom can be fun, but they’re also pretty intimidating. So, if you’re a toy newbie, we’ve got you covered! Read on for some tips and tricks.
Whether you’re using it for some self lovin’ or for sexy time with your significant other, sex toys are a fantastic way to spice things up in the bedroom. Not only would you get to explore new sensations, new types of pleasures and fantasies, but it will also improve the way you see your relationship with your partner and your body.
In the past, toys might have a bad rep where they are seen as replacements for real partners, but that’s not true! They’re supposed to enhance, not replace! So, here are my top 3 tips on how to bring toys in!
Talk it Over
First of all, if your partner expressed how displeased they are that you are suggesting it, let them. Do not shame or discredit their emotions because their emotions are valid. Instead, listen to your partner and reassure them; let them know that incorporating sex toys does not mean that you’re not satisfied, but quite the contrary! Toys are a way to explore new sensations, pleasures and fantasies together.
Below are some examples on how you can open the conversation up.
“I’ve always been curious about using the vibrator, but it’s only hot if I get to use it with you. What do you think?”
“Do you have any fantasies you want to explore? What do you think about incorporating toys?”
Remember to ease in to the conversation gently and let it flow naturally. If your partner is not up for it yet, don’t push it. Perhaps try other things in the bedroom instead like erotic massage oils or costumes for some roleplaying instead!
Sex toy shopping for yourself is already pretty exciting, can you imagine doing it with a partner? Not only is it fun but it’s also a great way to connect with each other. Also, the anticipation of using the toy and then reviewing it together afterwards is pretty fun.
No idea what to buy? How about starting with something less intimating like fluffy handcuffs! Feeling adventurous? Then try a vibrating penis with clitoral stimulation together or any couple toys. Remember, it takes teamwork to make the dream work!
Choosing your own toy
If you’re choosing a toy for yourself, it’s always important to do research before buying. You could opt to research online or even asking around for recommendations – that’s always a great idea! Another good tip for first time toy buyers is to figure out what sort of sensation you’re looking for and buy a toy to fulfill that.
Ladies, if you’re looking for clitoral stimulation, then get a vibrator or wand. If you’re into vaginal stimulation or penetration, then you’d want to try a dildo, anal beads or butt plug! If you’d like to stimulate a specific spot, you can try out the whale g-spot and clit stimulator too! Guys, want a toy to maintain an erection and delay ejaculation? Get a penis ring!
Great tips! But where can I get all these toys?
Finding toys in Malaysia is undoubtedly hard. We don’t really have a lot of store choices and toy varieties here. Sometimes, it can also be quite embarrassing and intimidating to get toys in public, especially for first-time users. Fortunately, there are many online stores that you can buy toys from! In fact, did you know that ONE® produces their own toys? Yes, they do!
Choose your favourite toy from the ONE® Indulgence series for only RM99.90 per set! It’s available on Watson’s e-Store and ONE® Official Stores on Lazada, Shopee, and onecondoms.my. Pleasure right at your fingertips. How awesome is that!
Hope these tips were helpful! Got your own tips? Comment below and share it with us. Till then, have a sexy, sensual and orgasmic day!
Jasmine is a Sex Positive Advocate who aims to break down barriers that stop people communicating openly and honestly about sexual health, self-love, relationships and intimacy. Break the taboo with her on @ohheymissking today!